by stevengconnelly@aol.com | Feb 14, 2016 | Uncategorized
I’ve been in the construction industry for over 30 years so I have a good understanding of the importance of tools and when to use a proper tool for the job at hand. Let’s take a look at how fear, anger,hurt feelings, unworthiness and guilt can be tools ! “When we change the way we look at things the things we look at change” Can it be that simple ?? What do most people think about when confronted with their fears ? It’s been said you must”face your fears” however for most of us that’s a bit of a stretch, the uncertainty of what might happen if we face that which makes us uncomfortable keeps us from facing the issue. We must step outside of our comfort zone to be able to face any fear, which sounds simple yet for most people this comfort zone is where they spend the most time. In order to break away from what holds us back we need the proper “tool” for the job…“BUT” How can we utilize fear, anger, hurt feelings, unworthiness and guilt as tools ? Fear: Energy, Concentration, Focus… Anger: Keeps us on Track… Unworthiness: Keeps us on Track… Guilt: Validates good, know what to do.. Hurt Feelings: Remind us how much we care… Each day this week be the observer…Think…For most people there are one or two out of the five words that we should focus on, for me it was anger don’t get me wrong I’m not at all an angry person in fact over the past year I’ve become much more at ease with the little things...
by stevengconnelly@aol.com | Feb 13, 2016 | Uncategorized
What is the difference between successful people and unsuccessful people ? Are they born that way ? Did they get a better education ? Some say they are just lucky… Truth is most people that are successful didn’t start out that way, There is story after story of people all over the world that have overcome adverse conditions and become very wealthy. Born on January,29,1954 in Koscinsko Mississippi from an unmarried couple, she spent her first few years of her life on her grandmothers farm in rural Mississippi , when she turned 6 years old her grandmother fell ill and was forced to live with her mother in a Milwaukee boarding house where she was surrounded with extreme poverty, she endured years of sexual abuse and was raped at the age of 9 by her 19 year old cousin. At the age of 14 she went to live with her dad in Nashville Tennessee. This was when her life began a new course, A stable environment allowed her to thrive academically as well as socially at East Nashville High School, where she would discover her passion for media…Best known as…Opra Winfery. There are many commonalities among successful people however there are three key elements that are evident. Direction: Without direction you won’t know where you’re going…Each day is planned they have a sense of what tasks need to be completed and the order of importance, think of it this way, We all use a GPS at times to give us directions to get to a location, We know where we want to go however we don’t know which route...
by admin | Feb 1, 2016 | Uncategorized
If you are looking to earn more money and have more time for yourself you may want to consider this quote from Jim Rohn “In order to have more, you need to become more.” We all have the natural ability to achieve more it’s in our DNA ! The challenge with most people is they go out in the world and “try” something new, fail, or get discouraged and just give up. They have very good intentions but fall short of the finish line, sound familiar? I read from, studied and modeled some of the most successful people I could find. Spent endless hours and thousands of dollars trying to figure out what was the key to success…Each had their own unique style, and systems. I’ve been told you learn what other people are doing and “model them”. Seems like a good idea right ? So out into the world I went…sometimes I had success, most times I would end up just getting frustrated… So how do successful people achieve success so effortlessly? I read what they read. I did the activities they did. I got the same amount of sleep they did. I eat the same foods they eat. Then I realized there is one “key” to all success ,which is our ability to focus on a specific thought and hold it there (we average 60,000-80,000 thoughts per day) don’t entertain any other thoughts, In today’s world of “instant gratification” we tend to hold onto only the thoughts that make us feel good at that second… I guess it’s not really our fault we’re programmed that way. Last...
by stevengconnelly@aol.com | Feb 1, 2016 | Uncategorized
The weather here continues to get colder with each passing day, The trees are becoming bear. It’s the time of year when any day now we could see snow falling..I can’t believe how fast this summer went by. Which made me think of last winter here in the north-east, seems like the snow just keptcoming.I spent more time shoveling snow than doing anything else…During the first week of February we had two back to back very powerful snowstorms, I started to ask my self is there a message here ? What am I supposed to learn from this? The silence has a way of shouting to you, when we’re busy we don’t listen we just keep going…I thought about the past week and how grateful I am to be a part of this amazing journey. As the hours went by I thought less and less about the material things I want in my life and more and more about what would make me happy that day as the wind-driven snow sand blasted my face… All I could think about was finishing the shoveling and getting warm by the fire…With 2-3 hours of work left to finish I developed a clear mental picture of what That would look like in my mind every detail of what I was going to do when I got in the house , I felt the warmth of the fire the smell of dinner cooking on the stove I could hear the excitement of my dogs as I came into the house ,I could see what I was going to change into before I...
by admin | Nov 5, 2015 | Uncategorized
Remember when we were kids and life was simpler… We’d play for hours. Who liked Baseball. Who liked Hockey. Who liked Basketball. Who liked Football. Who liked soccer. Let’s imagine for a moment what life was like back then. You would get up in the morning and go outside and play until dark (or at least until your mother told you it was time to come in) I can never forget the time the Boston Bruins won the Stanley cup in 1970. The Bruins were making their first appearance in the final since 1958. The Bruins went on to win the series 4-0, their first Stanley cup victory in 29 years…Bobby Orr scored the cup-winning goal on Glenn Hall, with an assist from Derek Sanderson, at forty seconds of overtime, I’ll never forget that day I saw Bobby Orr flying through the air,(he had been tripped by Blues defenseman Noel Picard just as he shot the puck) his arms raised in victory!! I can remember how happy my Dad was when the Bruins won that day, I think we were both dancing around the house…Like little kids…(at that time I still was). From that moment on I always Imagined I would also score a “game winning goal” every time we played hockey. It didn’t matter if it was raining. It didn’t matter if it was snowing. It didn’t matter if it was below zero. It didn’t matter if the ice was a little rough. All I could imagine was scoring that goal…No excuses… How about you ? Did you ever use your imagination like that when you were a...
by admin | Nov 5, 2015 | Uncategorized
Over this past weekend I had a chance to go into the silence, I planned for two days… Have you ever had a day without: Cell phones Computers Facebook T.V. Talking to people Nothing that can occupy your mind…Nothing at all…. for 2 days…Really… Seems strange when you think about it in fact a bit scary, just think for two days you’ll have no contact with another person. The first thing that pops into your mind is how am I going to take two days away from my work or my family? That was my initial thought, then I started to think about it a bit more , what is so important that I’m unable to unplug for a few days ? Is the world going to stop ? Not a chance…However there is always something that needs attention !! I decided that any journey begins with a starting point and it doesn’t matter if you begin with two days or just a few hours you just need to get started you’ll figure out how to extend the time. Over the years I’ve had some experience with breaks of time where I’ve had little or no contact with people, the only issue was I never fully unplugged from electronic devices. After that weekend I’ve grown to enjoy time alone once a month or so. Although I had short breaks of silence I never was able to totally unplug myself, I never knew how important that was until I spent that weekend alone. When you “unplug” it feels strange at first…It has been said that great minds seek solitude frequently, it...
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