“Happiness”

“Happiness”

 Some people are always happy no matter what is going on around them, It’s as if they are in there own world. There are two types of people, those who choose to be happy and those who choose to be unhappy. However happiness does not come from having money or being famous. The richest person on the planet could be unhappy while people without wealth can be the happiest! So how do they do that ? Who we are on the outside is directly related to the world within. Our own state of consciousness. It is where we dwell all day. As we think on the inner world our outside world and circumstances shape themselves accordingly. We only attract what belongs to us, nothing can enter into our inner “thought life”. It’s ours and belongs to us. Therefore your thoughts are the real you! We create  our own circumstances.. If circumstances had the power to bless or harm, wouldn’t that bless or harm us all? A person living in poverty may not have any money, but in their mind they are happy and content! To begin to change the visible world around us we must first begin to change our inner world, this is possible if we control out thoughts. We must first eliminate all debilitating and despondent thoughts and incorporating into your thoughts of: Joy Compassion Love Beauty Strength Plant these 5 words in the fields of your thoughts today and you’ll soon begin to see more joy, compassion, love, beauty and strength begin to manifest in your life!! Did this help you? If so I would greatly...
“Communication”

“Communication”

Have you ever been in a conversation with someone and you can’t get a word in? After over 35 years my friend Joe and his wife decided to sell their house, it’s not they were unhappy with their home, things just change over time, once a quiet neighborhood in the country with an occasional car has developed into a place of constant noise and traffic. Last weekend I helped them move, their new house is all on one floor located on a very quiet street in eastern Massachusetts. On Monday I met a client for lunch, I asked him how his weekend was he replied “very nice.” and yours? I told him I helped my friend Joe move to eastern Massachusetts, he replied, I grew up in eastern Massachusetts! Over the next hour I sat there and listened to him tell me stories of the things that he and his family did when they lived there. However I did find each story quite fascinating. After lunch we shook hands and he said how much he had enjoyed our conversation…I thought to myself, how much he had enjoyed the conversation? I hardly said a word. I couldn’t have said anything even if I wanted to unless I changed the subject. I sat there and listened to him because I was interested and he could feel it. I had asked him questions and intently listened. Do you think I would have made a good impression if I did not listen to what my client had to say that day ? It has been said it’s better to be a good listener...
“Names Matter”

“Names Matter”

How important is it for someone to remember your name ? You begin the conversation and you introduce yourself clearly, yet only a short while later that person does not remember your name ! Can you relate to this ?? When someone says your name it leaves you with a sense of importance. Sometimes it’s a challenge remembering a persons name especially if it is hard to pronounce. For most of us we’re so busy thinking about what we want to say next that we don’t quite get their full name which can place you in a disadvantage. However if you remember that name and properly pronounce it, you have just sent a very effective compliment to the person! Do you think you’ll have a better chance gaining their respect ? Franklin D Roosevelt was a master at recalling names, he could remember a persons name clearly with one time hearing their name. How is that possible ? Did he have some sort of secret ? Perhaps, When asked he said, “I pictured the persons name as if it was written on their forehead.” Mr Roosevelt knew the best way to gain the goodwill of others was to remember their name. In remembering names the first thing we must do is listen to what is being said, instead of thinking what you are going to say next, your internal dialogue occupies the same auditory nerve in your ear as external sound. Here are three ways to remember names:  Concentrate and listen to what they say, repeat the name to yourself a few times. Imaging the name as if it...
“Self-Expression”

“Self-Expression”

One of if not the biggest challenge in our personal or business life is getting our point of view across to another person, we know what we want but no matter what we say they just don’t seem to listen? sometimes we end up in an argument !! Even if you convince that person you are right and they are wrong, their personal pride would make it difficult for them to back down in future subjects which they may not agree with. When I was a foreman on a construction site a few years ago I had the responsibility of overseeing the success of each project I was on, the job was a challenge, getting the guys to see my point of view on the overall project seemed to be a daily struggle. Sometimes I would get angry at them for not getting the work completed on time or argue with them, that they should just do as I say… One day I was asked to go to another site for a day and oversee another project. I was worried the guys would not do the work I had set up for them to do that day we were on a very tight schedule so there was no margin for mistakes, so I made a decision to put my best man Mike in charge, I told him There was another project I needed to work at tomorrow and I was putting him in charge for the day, I explained to Mike the company was growing and they were looking for people like him to be the foreman on up...